single and she deletes all her online dating sites

I’m on three separate sites (don’t judge me.. I just thought it was better to cast a wider net and hopefully give myself a better chance of meeting someone).

Then in the last few weeks this crazy idea came over me about terminating all three accounts. Not just taking a break so I could re-activate them when I came to my senses but deleting them all for good.

Then I thought to myself I must be mad, how else was I going to meet or find a man!? I don’t have any single friends to socialise with. None of my friends or family have friends who are eligible bachelors. I literally have no other way of meeting people.

If I was being totally honest I suppose having these online profiles was like my way of trying to control dating or finding a man. Searching through a catalogue of potential partners and judging them based on a few photos and how they had described themselves.

So I debated what to do for a few weeks until something snapped (I think it was the 56 year old, short divorced man who sent me a kiss) and that was it, I deactivate and permanently deleted all three accounts in a space of ten minutes.

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Instantly I felt a sense of relief. I’m not sure why because it wasn’t like I was inundated with kisses, waves or messages. But some of these profiles I set up at least five years ago.

Right about now you probably think I’m crazy! Or asking yourself why does she delete her best chance of meeting a potential guy to date?

For years I have said I wanted my relationship to be a testimony to God. But yet I still tried to help him and I felt like having these dating sites was like a crutch to fall back on.


- believing in the unseen

- trusting for what you’ve always hoped for

Don’t get me wrong this isn’t for everyone and one day I might go back to internet dating. I also have had lots of friends who’ve met their current partners on these sites and some have married those they met online.

I actually do believe internet dating is a great way for singles to meet other singles. But for me right now I think this was the step I needed to take.

Change is as good as a holiday right!?

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4 Thoughts on “single and she deletes all her online dating sites

  1. I think what you did was really brave. And your right it does show your total trust in God to find that partner. But don’t you think God may want you to do something in order to come across the one. Example when you pray for a new job, you then need to go and hand out your cv. But again the use of your faith in this way is inspiring.

    • 30somethingandsingle on at said:

      Yeah I totally agree that someone people expect their partner to be dropped on their front door, when I don’t think that’s the case. But for me I was trying to control it and trying to make it happen. So for a season I needed to come off these sites and trust God. I may go back on them (as I think they are a great way for singles to meet other singles) But just for now this is what I think I needed to do, but some days I definitely question what am I doing!?
      Thanks for stopping by and leaving a message :)

      • Hi me again. I didn’t actually realise you replied. Thank you btw. I was just coming on your page to read your recent post when I remembered this one and wanted to ask how its going, with the no moredating websites.
        I totally get what you mean, I’ve taken breaks myself but never had the courage to delete.

  2. Jacki on at said:

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