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single and ready to mingle


33335233_10155346904340766_3940919642708508672_nHave you ever felt like you wanted the word ‘single’ printed across your forehead? (oh poor Jen) Especially when you are walking through the shopping centre or down the street and you pass a good looking guy.

You wish traffic light parties were an everyday occurrence. Where if you are in a relationship you wear red. If it’s complicated you wear orange & if you are single you wear green.

So if you are single & ready to mingle, where do you go to meet decent guys?

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set up


I’m a teacher and one of my parents wanted to set me up with her son. Plans were made for me to attend a BBQ at their house. Unfortunately due to our work schedules we missed each other.

I was given “Michael’s” phone number. So I sent him a text to say hi and explain who I was.

What this beautiful Mother didn’t know was that her son had recently been on a holiday to the other side of the country to spend time with his girlfriend.

This wasn’t the first time I had been set up with a guy. My family have set me up with a number of guys over the years. One even proposed, but I’ll tell you more about that story another day.

I know I’m not alone with friends and family playing match maker. I’d love to hear your experience with being set up…

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Time is a ticking


Sorry boys (if there are any who have stumbled across this site) I’m gonna go a little girly here. We all know the saying  about girls having a body clock. Well I’ve just found out in the last month or so that mine is ticking much faster than I’d hoped.

About eight years ago I ended up in hospital for over a week and eventually they worked out I had a cyst on one of my ovaries, about the size of a tennis ball that had twisted and it was causing me immense pain. So they removed the cyst and out with it came one of my ovaries.

At the time of the operation I asked if it would affect my fertility and if I would need to look into getting some of my eggs frozen? I was only in my mid twenties so I was told there was no hurry for that just yet.

Fast forward to this year and I was having irregular periods. So I went for a few different tests (that all came back normal). But it begged the question about my body clock. So I had the AMH (Anti-Mullerian Hormone) test performed by my gp. The level of AMH in a woman’s blood is generally a good indicator of her ovarian reserve. A level of 14-30 is considered normal. Whilst my result came back at 3.7

The doctor didn’t sugar coat the results she quite simply said “your levels are really low and if you want to have children you should consider doing so now”.

I was too shocked to ask any appropriate questions or say “well that’s a little hard when you don’t have a boyfriend, let alone a husband”

I don’t feel like I’m in my thirties and I always thought I have all the time in the world to get married and have children.

So the next step for me is to see a fertility specialist and look at what my options are. It’s a daunting step to consider these things when you are single and to potentially look at having your eggs frozen in the hope that you can have babies when you are ready.

I’ll keep you posted with the specialist recommendations and action plan.

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how long do you wait?

I think everyone has their own opinion on how long you should wait before sleeping with someone.

Just recently I met a guy for the first time and we grabbed a bite to eat. At the end of the evening he wanted to know when he could see me again? I said I didn’t have much planned for the next few nights. So he said “well maybe I could drive your way tomorrow and we can watch a movie or something”.

So on our second date, we went for dinner. Then there was this big push for me to sleep with him. I said “I don’t sleep around”. But over the course of the evening he would have tried more than five times. It was actually almost awkward how forward and pushy this guy was.

sexI have a friend who waits two months before she will sleep with a new partner and then before she does she makes them go and get tested to make sure they don’t have an STD.

Then I have another friend who didn’t sleep with anyone until she go married in her early thirties. Her rule was “he can touch me neck up and knees down”.

So two dates in two days and then I never heard from this guy again. Definitely not a keeper. And I’m glad I didn’t give in to his constant pressure!

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finding mr right

Cartoon Men

Over my thirty something years I have dated a…
Graphic Designer
Salsa Dancer
Warehouse Manager
Serial dater
Personal trainer

None of them worked out…
How about you??

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making the most of it

Recently I read this quote “people are having babies… And I’m like which country am I going to next?”


I thought this is definitely me.. 90% of my friends are having or have babies. This is my chance to see the world.

I was able to do some travelling this year. I nearly passed up the opportunity as I had always wanted to travel to some of these countries with that special someone.

My new motto is “life is short so make the most of it”. Being single isn’t a reason to stop you from travelling it should encourage us to see the world and meet some interesting people. And add some FB new friends from all over the world!

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