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When God doesn’t answer your prayer

This year isn’t over but we are definitely on the home stretch. There were times this year where I honestly felt like something new was around the corner. I just had this feeling. And to be honest, those few times I had that feeling not long after I met a guy.

The first of which I wasn’t head over heel for but he was a nice guy and I wanted to see if something would develop. Part way through dating him I felt like something wasn’t right. Like he was being shady. But when I questioned him, he said I was reading into things and he was just a private person. I still had no peace and a few weeks later I caught him out, he was cheating and seeing another person.

Not long after this I met another guy who was REALLY keen on me and told me he was putting all his eggs in my basket. He was going to up and move his life five hours south to live closer to me, find another job so we could make a real go of our relationship. Yet I wasn’t feeling it. I didn’t think of him or miss him like he did me. So I went to visit him and I broke it off.

Which brings me to now.. Both these guys I met on dating sites. But now I’ve deleted all my internet dating profiles. I’m left feeling like what is next? What do I do? I miss talking to guys. It was so easy to chat to someone online, strike up a new conversation. Yet now I’m left feeling kinda flat as we draw towards the end of another year.

You see I’ve stepped out in faith and feel like my prayers haven’t been answered. What do we do with this? When you thought it was your year, your time, but once again I’m at the same place I was at the beginning of the year… S T I L L S I N G L E

So as we get ready for this season of Christmas functions, New Years celebrations, family get togethers, work parties and so on. I think it’s ok to be aware that it’s a hard time, we won’t always feel happy. But I think it’s also good to realise this and make sure we spend time with the people we love rather than staying home or being by ourselves.

God hasn’t answered my prayer yet, but what we need to remember that it’s in His time schedule not ours.

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single and she deletes all her online dating sites

I’m on three separate sites (don’t judge me.. I just thought it was better to cast a wider net and hopefully give myself a better chance of meeting someone).

Then in the last few weeks this crazy idea came over me about terminating all three accounts. Not just taking a break so I could re-activate them when I came to my senses but deleting them all for good.

Then I thought to myself I must be mad, how else was I going to meet or find a man!? I don’t have any single friends to socialise with. None of my friends or family have friends who are eligible bachelors. I literally have no other way of meeting people.

If I was being totally honest I suppose having these online profiles was like my way of trying to control dating or finding a man. Searching through a catalogue of potential partners and judging them based on a few photos and how they had described themselves.

So I debated what to do for a few weeks until something snapped (I think it was the 56 year old, short divorced man who sent me a kiss) and that was it, I deactivate and permanently deleted all three accounts in a space of ten minutes.

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Instantly I felt a sense of relief. I’m not sure why because it wasn’t like I was inundated with kisses, waves or messages. But some of these profiles I set up at least five years ago.

Right about now you probably think I’m crazy! Or asking yourself why does she delete her best chance of meeting a potential guy to date?

For years I have said I wanted my relationship to be a testimony to God. But yet I still tried to help him and I felt like having these dating sites was like a crutch to fall back on.


- believing in the unseen

- trusting for what you’ve always hoped for

Don’t get me wrong this isn’t for everyone and one day I might go back to internet dating. I also have had lots of friends who’ve met their current partners on these sites and some have married those they met online.

I actually do believe internet dating is a great way for singles to meet other singles. But for me right now I think this was the step I needed to take.

Change is as good as a holiday right!?

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going exclusive with a guy

ExclusiveJust recently I went on a few dates with a guy I met at my gym. We got on super well. One night he had me over for dinner and had cooked roast veggies and marinated chicken. He had even taken note of my favourite drink and had purchased it to go along with our meal.

We saw each other or text each other every day for over a week. The only problem was that we hadn’t had ‘the talk’. So I wasn’t sure where we stood. Were we just getting to know each other and would we see what happens? Or was it more than that and was it ‘exclusive’? I wasn’t sure and I had a couple of other guys who wanted to catch up with me.

I didn’t want to assume anything so I decided I would ask. His reply went something like this “Yeah for sure .. Well I know I have feelings for you .. And I enjoy being with you also .. I suppose if u feel the same we can make it exclusive hey.. But only if thats what you want x”

So I have a boyfriend!! Wow it’s been awhile since I dated someone! I was excited & nervous all at the same time.

I text a good friend to tell her my news and she said “you have a boyfriend!!! I have to meet him”

So the newly formed couple were chatting and getting to know each other when something big came up. It was a game changer.

I knew my bf had kids from a previous relationship, but what I didn’t realise was that he didn’t want to get married or have any more children.

And well seen as though I have never been married and I don’t have any children, I would definitely love to have both one day.

We realised then and there that this wasn’t going to work. We both wanted different things.

So I was exclusive with a guy for one whole hour!

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